Before a storm hits, disaster strikes, or something that’s just plain bad happens, there will always be signs of warning. It’s very common to hear people say: “why didn’t we listen to the warning signs”. This is true of storms, political events, bridge collapses, and of couples breaking up.

Be warned, if you’re subject to paranoia, please skip this article. You must bear in mind that the points discussed here refer to changes in your partners behavior that was absent in the past. Likewise, the more points that are true for your relationship the more likely a breakup is imminent.

1.) Are you quarreling all day long, 7 days a week? The odd dispute once in a while is perfectly ok. But chronic fighting is very bad.

Constant fighting and bickering over trivial things means that you don’t want to face up to the real reason for your discontent. Is fear of a separation the only thing that holds you together? Or is it a different matter that’s got to be faced immediately?

2.) Have you been relegated to the bottom of her priority scale? This means that the most insignificant thing in her life comes before you. For example, there’s never any room in her busy social calendar to fit you in.

This is an incredibly painful and demeaning situation to be caught in. She has virtually pushed you away and out of her life. Although you haven’t officially broken up, you’re basically there already.

3.) Does she fail to offer details about where she is going or the name of her friend? Often this won’t have any significance But if she won’t tell the truth when you ask her then something is wrong.

4.) Notice any subtle changes in how the friends and family of your partner relate to you? Have they become more distant and seem uncomfortable around you? They’re probably talking about your relationship among themselves and are siding with your partner.

5.) Is the affection and love that you give her not returned with equal enthusiasm. When you increase your contact with her, does she pull away from you? If this is your situation, a break up is in your future if nothing is done to fix the relationship.

6.) Has she begun to talk to you in a very contemptuous way? This is true evidence that her perception of you has undergone a major shift. It’s important that you repair this problem soon or risk a break up in the near future.

Make sure that you only apply the above points to changes in your partners behavior. The odd personality quirk that is a permanent part of her make up would not count as a break up sign. Also make sure that you’ve ruled out more obvious explanations. Perhaps there’s a problem at work that’s gnawing at her which explains her current behavior.

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