If you and your ex have broken up and you are frantically trying to think of some way to reverse the situation then you need to stop for a second and make sure are being honest with yourself.

You want your ex back badly, but do you know why? Many people in your situation react the way they do not from love, but from jealousy.

People who are motivated by jealousy are not concerned about what is right for their ex. They only want to renew the relationship because they hate imagining their ex with someone else.

Try your best to separate love from jealousy in your thinking. Your mind can play tricks on you but make every effort to be clear in your thinking because if you are really motivated by jealousy your efforts are probably doomed to failure.

If you are sure that you want to re-ignite the relationship with your ex for all the right reasons, don’t stop being honest with yourself because you have some more thinking to do.

You have to think honestly and clearly about why the relationship ended.

No matter what the ultimate reason for the break up was you must shoulder some of the responsibility.

Because in fact you have more chance of rebuilding your relationship with your ex if the responsibility for the break up rests mainly on your shoulders.

How can that be you say?

If you were perfect and your ex was wholly responsible for the break up then there is nothing you can change that will get him or her back. Don’t start thinking you can make your ex change, because you can’t.

If the break up was your fault though, then you have the opportunity to make changes to yourself that may help you to renew the relationship.

Be honest with yourself. Do your best to understand why you want your ex back and what you did to cause the break up and you have a great chance of getting your ex back.

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